培养自己的斗志，狼性。从绵羊到狼的过程。
对自由的向往，对人生的负责，对按照自己的想法做事情的执着。
做生意必须要戒烟，首先你要有好的身体，其次你要有坚强的意志，最后要乐观，永远不要消沉。
你没有觉察到的事情，就会变你的「命运」。——卡尔·荣格
凡事终有度 - I said that。狼性也是有度的，不是疯狗的性格。
Why am I getting lazy?
"Breaking: You Don't Lack WillPower, You Lack Balls!!!"
Last year I was depressed. I couldn't do anything that I wanted to do. I would try something for a while then give up, and make excuses that I don't have enough will power.
The more I failed, the worse I felt. The worse I felt, the less I wanted to do anything, or try anything. This was a vicious cycle that I got stuck in.
Until one day I got slapped on the face by a hot girl. It wasn't a literal slap, a metaphorical one. She told me I didn't have any balls to do anything and that's why I was where I was.
"You don't lack willpower. You lack balls." She said
I don't have to tell you much more... but just by looking at your question I can tell that you don't have balls either. You'd see it too if a hot girl slapped you in the face.
If you want to discover the secret of how to overcome your procrastinating without being slapped on the face keep reading... (As a bonus, I'll also tell you how to find bigger balls.)
Here's what you can do to stop procrastinating and get some will power to do the things that you want to do, have the relationships that you're looking for, and gain the love and respect of your friends and family.
If you follow the steps in this answer you will quickly achieve the things that you want to achieve. You will gain power over your colleagues, your boss will give you the credit for things that you do.
But that's not all, your family will become proud of you, and your friends will follow you where ever you want to lead them. Finally, you will gain the love of your life and the respect you've always deserved.
If you don't follow the steps mentioned in this post you will keep doing what you've been doing and keep getting the results that you've always gotten .
You will lose the respect of your friends and family, you will be overlooked for promotions, and your boss and colleagues will overlook you for important project.
Finally your family will treat you like a child who has no control over himself and your friends will treat you like a loser, and stop inviting you to parties.
So here's how you stop procrastinating and get control on your willpower.
The Lie About 'A Lack Of Will Power'
If you're unable to do something, most people will tell you that you lack will power. That's a lie.
The next time some one says that, walk away from them, and never talk to them again.
This is a big lie. There is no suck thing as a "lack" of will power.
Before you get more about how to take control of your will power, or get more will power you have to understand
What Is Will Power?
The highest form of energy each of us get is 'will power'. This is the energy that gets produced in your mind every day. You get very little of this energy every day.
This is a finite amount of energy that you get.
Just like there are 24 hours in a day and every one gets the same amount of time. There is a certain amount of will power that each of us gets each day.
You can chose to spend this energy any way you like, or not spend it at all. But at the end of the day the energy of will power will become zero.
Just like in the morning you have 24 hours. As the day keeps going on the time you have left in that day finishes, so does the energy in will power.
You have the highest amount of willpower when you wake up, and it goes down as the day runs on.
Now you can spend your 24 hours doing different things, watch tv, play a sport, learn a skill, hang out with friends. The more amount of time you spend doing one task the better you will get at that - and the worse you will get at everything else.
Just like that, will power is a finite amount and you can choose to spend this on a number of tasks.
You can workout, write, read a book, or spend your willpower to watch TV all day. This is your choice at the beginning of the day.
I'll tell you how you can use willpower to become unstoppable in a minute, but before I tell you that let's first discover...
What Will Power Is NOT?
Will power is not what most people say that it is.
It isn't you forcing yourself to stop eating that last cookie.
It isn't you forcing yourself to get up at 6 o'clock in the morning to go for a run.
It isn't you forcing yourself to do the things that someone says you should be doing.
Will power is not when someone stands on one leg for the entire afternoon to get on Guinness Book of Records, or being suspended in ice for 48 hours as a street performer.
Now that you know what is will power and what isn't will power we can go ahead and take a look at how you can use the will power for your benefit.
For this we'll take a look at...
How To Use Will Power Successfully
Since 'Willpower' is a finite amount of energy that depletes over time we can use this will power a number of ways. But the best way to spend this will power is spending it on the highest leverage activity.
A high leverage activity is one that will give you the best return over time.
The benefit of doing this is taking the time out to design a high leverage activity that will give you excellent returns over time.
One of the highest leverage activity is forming good habits. Good habits are like a drop of water on a rock. In the beginning they don't seem to do much for you.
But over a long period of time the rock breaks to the will of the droplet.
So create good habits. These habits will act like a powerful force for you which will bend your 'habit of impulsive procrastination' until one day you will become unstoppable.
Your impulsive procrastination is a habit. You can replace it. You can create a new habit of becoming an action-taker.
I'll share with you in a little while how to create these habits... but before I do that, let me tell you...
How To Find The Balls To Create Habits
The biggest problem when creating habits is finding the balls to create the habit that you are looking to create.
But finding balls to do the things that you want to do isn't very hard, actually.
Think about it.
If Angelina Jolie was waiting for you across town, waiting for you, and you only. Then how hard would it be for you to get there. It wouldn't be very hard. (Replace Angelina Jolie with whoever you find hotter)
But you get my point. If there was a hot chick waiting for you across town you'd find a way to get to her. You'd walk, get a cab, find a friend to drive you, or swim if you had to across a channel.
But you'd get there.
This is what's missing in your ambitions. Not will power, not procrastination. But the balls to move you to do the things that you 'think' you want to do.
If you 'think' you want to start a business, and are sitting on your ass not doing anything, it's not because you are lazy, or lack will power. But it is because you don't really care about creating a business.
If this 'business' was a hot girl waiting for you across town you'd already be there.
So all the things that you want to do... list them down. Now think about the one that really turns you on. The one that makes your heart skip a beat.
If there is nothing on that list, then burn this list, flush it down the toilet and go for a walk.
Then come home and really write a list of things that excites you - that will make you walk across town to find out if that's something that you can do.
If you cannot come up with a list, go for another walk. This time leave your iPod and phone and home.
Go alone and answer this question, "If you had all the time and money in the world, and you knew that you could not fail, what one thing would you want to do."
Then come home and write this down - and do it.
Finally, you want to create the habits of doing this over and over again. If today your 'hot-chick' idea was to be able to 'run a marathon in 6 months.' Then when you achieve this hot-chick idea it won't really matter for you.
You will be back to square one. So create habits that will keep giving you hot-chick ideas over and over again.
Here's how you do that.
Creating Unstoppable Habits That Will Propel You To Success
I've written a detailed answer on how you can create unstoppable habits that will propel you to success.
Instead of repeating it here, you can read Rizwan Aseem's answer to What are some skills every 24 year old should know?
Once you've read the answer - follow what you've discovered in this answer.
These actions when put to work for you will give you the success that you've always wanted.
Implement them in your life.
Within the next 6 months your life will change so drastically, you will come back and laugh at yourself for asking this question.
Last year I was depressed. I couldn't do anything that I wanted to do. I would try something for a while then give up, and make excuses that I don't have enough will power.
The more I failed, the worse I felt. The worse I felt, the less I wanted to do anything, or try anything. This was a vicious cycle that I got stuck in.
Until one day I got slapped on the face by a hot girl. It wasn't a literal slap, a metaphorical one. She told me I didn't have any balls to do anything and that's why I was where I was.
"You don't lack willpower. You lack balls." She said
I don't have to tell you much more... but just by looking at your question I can tell that you don't have balls either. You'd see it too if a hot girl slapped you in the face.
If you want to discover the secret of how to overcome your procrastinating without being slapped on the face keep reading... (As a bonus, I'll also tell you how to find bigger balls.)
Here's what you can do to stop procrastinating and get some will power to do the things that you want to do, have the relationships that you're looking for, and gain the love and respect of your friends and family.
If you follow the steps in this answer you will quickly achieve the things that you want to achieve. You will gain power over your colleagues, your boss will give you the credit for things that you do.
But that's not all, your family will become proud of you, and your friends will follow you where ever you want to lead them. Finally, you will gain the love of your life and the respect you've always deserved.
If you don't follow the steps mentioned in this post you will keep doing what you've been doing and keep getting the results that you've always gotten .
You will lose the respect of your friends and family, you will be overlooked for promotions, and your boss and colleagues will overlook you for important project.
Finally your family will treat you like a child who has no control over himself and your friends will treat you like a loser, and stop inviting you to parties.
So here's how you stop procrastinating and get control on your willpower.
The Lie About 'A Lack Of Will Power'
If you're unable to do something, most people will tell you that you lack will power. That's a lie.
The next time some one says that, walk away from them, and never talk to them again.
This is a big lie. There is no suck thing as a "lack" of will power.
Before you get more about how to take control of your will power, or get more will power you have to understand
What Is Will Power?
The highest form of energy each of us get is 'will power'. This is the energy that gets produced in your mind every day. You get very little of this energy every day.
This is a finite amount of energy that you get.
Just like there are 24 hours in a day and every one gets the same amount of time. There is a certain amount of will power that each of us gets each day.
You can chose to spend this energy any way you like, or not spend it at all. But at the end of the day the energy of will power will become zero.
Just like in the morning you have 24 hours. As the day keeps going on the time you have left in that day finishes, so does the energy in will power.
You have the highest amount of willpower when you wake up, and it goes down as the day runs on.
Now you can spend your 24 hours doing different things, watch tv, play a sport, learn a skill, hang out with friends. The more amount of time you spend doing one task the better you will get at that - and the worse you will get at everything else.
Just like that, will power is a finite amount and you can choose to spend this on a number of tasks.
You can workout, write, read a book, or spend your willpower to watch TV all day. This is your choice at the beginning of the day.
I'll tell you how you can use willpower to become unstoppable in a minute, but before I tell you that let's first discover...
What Will Power Is NOT?
Will power is not what most people say that it is.
It isn't you forcing yourself to stop eating that last cookie.
It isn't you forcing yourself to get up at 6 o'clock in the morning to go for a run.
It isn't you forcing yourself to do the things that someone says you should be doing.
Will power is not when someone stands on one leg for the entire afternoon to get on Guinness Book of Records, or being suspended in ice for 48 hours as a street performer.
Now that you know what is will power and what isn't will power we can go ahead and take a look at how you can use the will power for your benefit.
For this we'll take a look at...
How To Use Will Power Successfully
Since 'Willpower' is a finite amount of energy that depletes over time we can use this will power a number of ways. But the best way to spend this will power is spending it on the highest leverage activity.
A high leverage activity is one that will give you the best return over time.
The benefit of doing this is taking the time out to design a high leverage activity that will give you excellent returns over time.
One of the highest leverage activity is forming good habits. Good habits are like a drop of water on a rock. In the beginning they don't seem to do much for you.
But over a long period of time the rock breaks to the will of the droplet.
So create good habits. These habits will act like a powerful force for you which will bend your 'habit of impulsive procrastination' until one day you will become unstoppable.
Your impulsive procrastination is a habit. You can replace it. You can create a new habit of becoming an action-taker.
I'll share with you in a little while how to create these habits... but before I do that, let me tell you...
How To Find The Balls To Create Habits
The biggest problem when creating habits is finding the balls to create the habit that you are looking to create.
But finding balls to do the things that you want to do isn't very hard, actually.
Think about it.
If Angelina Jolie was waiting for you across town, waiting for you, and you only. Then how hard would it be for you to get there. It wouldn't be very hard. (Replace Angelina Jolie with whoever you find hotter)
But you get my point. If there was a hot chick waiting for you across town you'd find a way to get to her. You'd walk, get a cab, find a friend to drive you, or swim if you had to across a channel.
But you'd get there.
This is what's missing in your ambitions. Not will power, not procrastination. But the balls to move you to do the things that you 'think' you want to do.
If you 'think' you want to start a business, and are sitting on your ass not doing anything, it's not because you are lazy, or lack will power. But it is because you don't really care about creating a business.
If this 'business' was a hot girl waiting for you across town you'd already be there.
So all the things that you want to do... list them down. Now think about the one that really turns you on. The one that makes your heart skip a beat.
If there is nothing on that list, then burn this list, flush it down the toilet and go for a walk.
Then come home and really write a list of things that excites you - that will make you walk across town to find out if that's something that you can do.
If you cannot come up with a list, go for another walk. This time leave your iPod and phone and home.
Go alone and answer this question, "If you had all the time and money in the world, and you knew that you could not fail, what one thing would you want to do."
Then come home and write this down - and do it.
Finally, you want to create the habits of doing this over and over again. If today your 'hot-chick' idea was to be able to 'run a marathon in 6 months.' Then when you achieve this hot-chick idea it won't really matter for you.
You will be back to square one. So create habits that will keep giving you hot-chick ideas over and over again.
Here's how you do that.
Creating Unstoppable Habits That Will Propel You To Success
I've written a detailed answer on how you can create unstoppable habits that will propel you to success.
Instead of repeating it here, you can read Rizwan Aseem's answer to What are some skills every 24 year old should know?
Once you've read the answer - follow what you've discovered in this answer.
These actions when put to work for you will give you the success that you've always wanted.
Implement them in your life.
Within the next 6 months your life will change so drastically, you will come back and laugh at yourself for asking this question.
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